If you decide to be a surrogate in California , it is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life which will have far-reaching consequences. Not only does it have a direct effect on your own life, as well as the lives of people in your immediate family, but it will have a huge impact on the lives of the people for whom you are generously providing surrogacy. Bringing a new life into the world, a human being, is never a light matter, and for the family and the child, your active role in making it possible for infertile parents of same sex partners to raise children is both critical and immeasurably important. Deciding to be a surrogate in California therefore can never be about the money, or something you choose to do on a whim. It is always ultimately going to be the responsible decision of a mature adult who wants to make a difference in the lives of other people.
Many of the couples who are seeking surrogacy have never had children, despite years of struggle and trying. There are almost as many different kinds of stories regarding the struggles of infertile couples as there are couples. Each situation is unique. In some cases, there may have been brief pregnancies that ended in miscarriage, or even stillborn births. There are likely years of disappointment, regrets, difficult times and hand-wringing which have brought couples to the decision to pursue surrogacy. When you decide to be a surrogate in California, you are meeting a real need that often has a back history of significant pain. Developing a bond with potential couples, or the couple you choose, based not only on a common objective but your own compassion, can make all the difference in a successful surrogacy process.
Relatively new are surrogate pregnancies conducted for same sex couples, who sometimes may involve infertile or transgender women, but are most often men who desire to have children. Although, same sex couples stories may differ significantly from those of infertile couples, their struggles and desires to have children are often no less intense and moving than that of their more conventional counterparts.
Other couples may already have children, either together or from previous marriages, but have become infertile either due to advanced age, cancer, or other medical reasons. Developing a sense of the desire and longing that is likely present in any couple’s lives is often helpful to surrogate mothers as they proceed with conception and pregnancy in order to meet their needs and expectations.